Surrender to the Fear of the Unknown? What does it mean? Is it possible?
Have you ever had something happen in your life that made you freeze in panic or have a melt down? Maybe it was a call from your boss to schedule a private meeting for the following week. You start thinking about what he has in store for you. Maybe he wants to demote or worse, fire you? Or could it be that he is holding you responsible for your team’s failure to secure an important account? As you wait for that fateful day, you lose sleep, you cry and fret and succumb to eating a bucket of ice cream and more. The last thing you can think of right now is to Surrender to that fear. You either feel the need to do something about it or become completely paralysed by this fear. Surrender seems an impossibility right now…
When something in our lives is presented to us and we don’t know what will happen, we automatically go into fear mode. This happens as we try to think our way to solve it. The problem is that the brain cannot think of something that it does not know. It does not know what the problem is, therefore it cannot think its way to a resolution, and so we feel out of control and we panic.
Negative thinking sets in and life becomes miserable. We worry, lose sleep and life can become unbearable for us and those around us.
We can lose valuable time in achieving our goals because of this nasty interruption.
How can you ward off or surrender to fear?
The first thing is to not listen to other’s views around the subject because, unless they are the source, they probably know as little as you do.
If there is a chance to enquire and get more information, then do so. This will bring you back into your power through the knowledge versus the unknown.
If there is nothing you can do but wait, then do just that. Wait. But wait in a healthy way.
To remain positive and get out of what I call the negative spin of unhelpful thoughts, simply acknowledge that you don’t know what will happen. It may be negative or it may be positive. You won’t know until you meet your boss. So instead of losing your equilibrium, allow yourself to acknowledge the fear of the unknown and surrender to it. Make an internal statement to yourself that what ever is about to come, you choose to trust the Universe will lead you through it and all will be well. In most cases, you worry over something that never happens. Don’t lose valuable time. Continue to dream, work and create the life that you want and deal with the situation only when it is appropriate to do so.
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